When Life Takes a Detour: My Battle with Cancer

Last August, I got sick with what I thought was just a cough and cold. I assumed it was nothing serious, maybe just a lingering cold. When I went to the doctor, I was diagnosed with bronchitis and then possible pneumonia. Multiple rounds of steroids and antibiotics didn’t help, and I remained sick. I was stunned when I saw a tumor on my X-ray, CT, and PET scans.

August turned out to be the beginning of a terrible series of events. It was supposed to be different. I was turning 40, and actually looking forward to a new decade of life. Instead, I lost my grandfather,  and unknowingly, I was starting the journey to an official cancer diagnosis.

You never think it will happen to you.

Hearing the words “you have cancer” is terrifying—especially as a single mom to two girls. This was supposed to be a big year. My oldest is graduating high school, we’ve been exploring colleges, and we had planned a big West Coast trip in May. In an instant, all my plans changed, because cancer does not discriminate.

I went through so many emotions—anger, frustration, bitterness, sadness—and I was so physically sick. I was emotionally drained, and it felt like my world had flipped upside down.

Almost four months later, in the middle of my chemo cycles, I feel more in control. I am beating this disease and staying positive about the outcomes. Every day is different, and sometimes I even forget I have cancer—until I look in the mirror and see my bald head, or glance down and notice the scars from surgery and my port.

But through all of this, one of the most unexpected lessons I’ve learned is how good people are. Friends, family, and even complete strangers have stepped up to support me—financially, with meals, and with prayers. It has been overwhelming in the best way possible, and I have never felt more surrounded by love and kindness.

Cancer may have taken some of my plans away, but it has also shown me just how strong and supported I truly am.

If you are going through something similar, I want you to know that your feelings are valid. The highs and lows are real, and it’s okay to feel everything—anger, sadness, frustration, and even moments of joy. Always listen to your body; if something doesn’t feel right, don’t ignore it. Be persistent with your health, and advocate for yourself.

For those wanting to support a loved one with cancer, here are some ways to help from a patient’s perspective:

• Give them space to feel their emotions. Don’t force positivity; just be there and let them process things in their own time.
• Listen to them. Sometimes, we don’t need advice—we just need someone to hear us.
• Offer practical help. A meal, a ride to treatment, or even handling small errands can make a huge difference.
• Respect their boundaries. Some days, we want company; other days, we need to be alone.
• Keep checking in. A simple text or call can mean the world, even if we don’t always have the energy to respond right away.

Cancer is a life-altering experience, but the love and kindness from others can make a difference. If you are battling this disease, know that you are not alone.